Justification

As if I need to really spend the time clarifying and justifying my position, sometimes it helps if I get it all laid out in an orderly fashion.

1. She refuses counseling.  After 2.5 years of separation.  After saying numerous times she "really hopes we can work things out".  She even said to me not long ago while drunk when I asked her why not, it could help us get past things "I don't want to get past them".  Really.  Nuff said.
2. I can't move up there, and she refuses to move down here.  As long as Todd is going to school here, that's the issue.  She won't even discuss it as a possibility.  
3. She never, ever, ever, ever ONCE has stated any kind of clear path.  I have my own ideas and I've assumed a lot at times...and I'm fairly certain that I was wrong every time.  Like getting a job.  Not just a job.  A "real" job?  I guess there will be stipulations about how much I make and what the benefits are?  How long I must have it?  That...is not someone who wants to work things out.
4. Numerous lies and constantly screwing others.  I'm not absolutely certain, but I know she met Assfucker™ and he was the first one besides Cali I knew about, so I know she's been on that goddamned site for 2 years+.  And nothing I've ever been told nor knew about at the time was ever right.  It's only been 6+ months after the fact (if not longer) that I've found out the real truth.  It seems like a fairly steady stream.  Not that she whores around a lot.  She finds a regular and goes with it.  Cali>>>Assfucker>>>Fireman>>>(late Nov 2014-at least summer 2015-unknown)Summer 2015? SWguy.  Who knows who else, what else?  That google search of "kinky sex acts"...motherfucker.  She never googles kinky sex acts for me.  God knows what she really does.